Anonymous said: I would give your sister little gifts to know that she is welcomed and loved in your family. Try drawing something for her if you like drawing, or if you like writing then write a poem that will let her feel accepted and if shes young, maybe you could write a story that she'll enjoy! You could also get her a stuffed animal, or some other sort of comfort toy so she still has something physical other than you. You are a wonderful person for caring about her this much. :)

Anonymous said: Those who have SPD, autism, or synesthesia tend to have overlapping symptoms of each other. Someone with SPD is definitely more likely to have synesthesia than a neurotypical person. Likewise to autism.

nobody-knows-im-a-cuttlefish said: I spent most of my childhood thinking my mum was joking when she said socks were supposed to be worn with the seams on the inside.

That’s why I love that I can knit my own socks now! I always do a decreased toe with a kitchener stitched seam (seamless weaving!!) rather than a turned toe with a standard seam. 
If only tights and stockings could be made seamless. ):

Anonymous said: I have a pet theory that my misophonia/spd is related to my synesthesia. Any followers who are synnies as well?? :)

Anonymous said: A lot of dress pants have this sort of soft smooth swishy texture that's really nice too, plus they look dressy so you can wear them anywhere and only worry about being overdressed. (Which is never a bad thing, in my opinion.)

Dress pants are just fantastic, no matter your gender identity! There are super nice feminine dress pants and super nice masculine dress slacks that change in their level of dressiness depending on the front pleats, material, level of tailoring, colour, and what you wear with them. My goodness dress pants are lovely!

Anonymous said: I really hate people touching me, I can't stand it at all. But one of my sisters is having some issues with her place in the family after a recent adoption and she's constantly seeking out physical comfort from me, which I can't give to her. And I feel like crap for it, but I don't know how to get her to stop without sounding like I'm making things up (since I'm not "officially diagnosed") or hurting her feelings. Do you have any tips for this sort of thing?

Personally I would prepare myself for touching and brace myself as much as possible. There’s plenty of time afterwards to destress, but that’s just what I would find preferable.
Family is always a difficult thing to maneuver through while having SPD because there are a lot of expectations around familial relationships that sometimes SPD just won’t allow.
Your sister seems to be going through an extremely difficult time, and I’m sure having the validation she needs to know that you’re there for her would help her in the long run and will ultimately benefit both of you.
I don’t know how much you could bear before a breakdown, but I’m tempted to say this might be one of those situations that finding your limit and preparing for it might be a good exercise. 
This is such a hard situation and I don’t want to sound like I’m judgey or anything for you not wanting to offer physical comfort (because I don’t judge you at all, I never know what to do with friends that are crying or are having a difficult time. I always end up telling jokes and trying to lift the mood.) but figuring out ways of making the touching as bearable as possible might be something to consider.

Gosh I really hope everything turns out ok! This is a really difficult situation and I’m proud of you no matter what you decide is the best way to go about it!

Anonymous said: I think I have SPD based on everything I've read but I'm an adultish (21) and I don't even know the first step towards getting a diagnosis or treatment. Help? (I'm in the US)

Finding an occupational therapist that specializes in spectrum disorders is your best bet for a diagnosis. SPD is still “in limbo” in a way, so medical doctors generally don’t know about it and standard therapists typically don’t understand it. I’ve gone to a counsellor at my university about stress and ended up having to explain to them all about SPD and why I know it wasn’t that that was causing the stress, rather than helping me with the stress I had. It took me 5 times to explain to my doctor that my anxiety wasn’t the same as my SPD. Time wasted, really.

OTs are nice because lots of them can actually understand what you’re going through to a degree and validate how you feel about stuff. It’s pretty great!

I live in Canada so I’m not to familiar with the American system, but someone here must know more about it than I! Anyone up to offering some advice?

j-a-s-m-i-n-e-k-a said: Does clacking your teeth to music count as stimming? Because I do it a lot without realizing.


Anonymous said: I'm so glad I found this tumblr. I was diagnosed when I was 9 but the doctor didn't put it on any official papers, he just mentioned it to my mom in passing (asshole) and we just realized last month that this is the source of maybe all of my issues.

I’m sorry your doctor didn’t help beyond a brief mention! That is the complete opposite of helpful!

kawaiinic-cage said: My SPD and dyspraxia were really bad in elementary school all the way through high school, but I feel like it's suddenly gone away. I mean, I'm still grossed out by some textures and smells but it's not to the same degree. Is that a thing?

Could be! SPD is so unpredictable it’s bananas. I think as long as you’re more comfortable these days, then everything’s just peachy! :)